THE PRACTICAL GUIDE TO
BECOMING LOVE

You must practice patience every day in order to override old code and BECOME LOVE. Practice the 3 QUALITIES of patience: Infinite, Immediate, Unconditional; and the 2 MODES: Towards yourself, Towards others.

 

INFINITE PATIENCE

 

Infinite patience is when your patience never runs out.

 

TOWARDS YOURSELF: You start at a new gym. You feel good the first week, but by the second week, you’re more tired than ever. You haven’t lost weight or gained muscle. Your untamed mind, which doesn’t want to be patient, tells you, 'I should quit.' This is an opportunity to practice infinite patience. You know, logically, if you keep going you will get fitter. It is only your patience that has run out. If you return to the gym and keep going even when your progress is not noticeable, you override old code and increase the duration of your patience. Eventually, you will get fitter, and if you keep practicing, you will become more Love.

 

TOWARDS OTHERS: Your coworker is telling another boring story. Third today. It is your lunchtime. You could be curt and say, “I don’t care.” If you lose patience with them you are saying your time is more valuable than theirs. Which might be true, but remember, the goal is to BECOME LOVE. Now is the time to practice infinite patience. Instead of being curt, you could politely say, “I’m sorry, it’s my lunchtime, I gotta go.”

 

IMMEDIATE PATIENCE

 

Immediate patience is being patient now, instead of looking back later and wishing you were patient. There is no delay in expressing your patience, it is immediate.

 

TOWARDS YOURSELF: You start reading a book recommended by a friend. It’s hard to understand, you can’t follow along, you feel dumb, and get frustrated. You want to slam the book down and give up. This is an opportunity to practice immediate patience. Read one more chapter whether you like it or not. Then decide calmly if you want to give up on the book. Don’t let your frustrated mind’s lack of patience dictate your actions.

 

TOWARDS OTHERS: You are tired; it’s been a long day. You are waiting in line at a convenience store. The person in front of you is taking their sweet time buying lottery tickets. Your old code response wants you to say, “Hurry up already!” But the Universe does not revolve around your impatient mind. Instead, you could wish the person good luck on their selections. By practicing immediate patience, you are overriding old code with new code. This helps you BECOME LOVE.

 

UNCONDITIONAL PATIENCE

 

Unconditional patience is not making any excuses why you can’t be patient. Your patience has no strings attached.

 

TOWARDS YOURSELF: You try to quit something (smoking, biting your nails, eating junk food, spending too much time on social media, so on). Your ego creates the excuse: ‘I’ll quit when my life slows down (condition), and I can focus.’ Now your ego can use old code responses to keep your life moving fast so you never feel ready. Instead, don’t let the condition get in the way, start to quit right now. Have patience it takes time, and recommit after every relapse. Conditions on yourself are one way your ego self-sabotages your growth. Don’t let anything get in the way of you becoming Love.

 

TOWARDS OTHERS: Your neighbour is being loud. You ask them patiently to lower the noise after a certain time. They get angry. Now you feel justified getting angry too: ‘They weren’t patient so now I don’t have to be.’ This is a condition. Practice unconditional patience. Ask again just as calmly. Your patience doesn’t require their partnership.

 

*Look for moments to practice patience throughout your day. You can either seek out situations or people that you know will test your patience, or prepare for your patience to be spontaneously challenged.