Synopsis
The Bear is a show about a group of damaged people in Chicago struggling to run a restaurant after a death that affects them all.
Why You Should Watch
You’ve heard the hype; the hype is real. FX's The Bear has to be the most successful show on TV right now about people trying to practice Love. I know, if you’ve seen the show (or even the trailer) you’re probably thinking, “The show where everyone’s always yelling at each other is about practicing Love?"
Yeah, totally. The Bear is such a lovely show because literally every single character is trying to be more Loving—and almost every single one of them sucks! Like, awful at it! And that’s a major aspect of the show: Watching traumatized and damaged people with very few tools trying their best to be better. Isn’t that so human? That’s so human.
The characters’ lack of tools is exactly why you should watch The Bear. Watch these loveable/annoying people slog their way through life without something like The Become Love System. It’s chaos and suffering. Then decide you don’t want to be that. Let the show motivate your own development.
Particularly, watch the Sydney character, played by Ayo Edibri. Of the group, Sidney has the best grasp on practicing Love, but she doesn’t know how to teach it to anyone else. It’s heartbreaking. She so badly wants to help, but she’s not effective—and that pains her. I can relate.
Sydney has this great quote in episode 2: “You know the restaurant could be good ... Like, it doesn’t have to be a place where the food is shitty, or everybody acts shitty and everybody feels shitty. Like, it could be a good, legit spot.”
Replace “the restaurant” with “the planet,” and that’s the best plea for more Love I’ve seen on a successful TV show.
How to Practice Love While Watching
When the characters on the show are struggling to practice patience, forgiveness, gratitude, and compassion, imagine what you would do in that situation. Each time you replace their behaviour with your imagined behaviour, you mentally prepare yourself to do that in your own life. I mean, how cool is that? Every time Carmy flies off the handle, he’s helping you to not.
This is the power of using conscious entertainment to become the person you want to be, rather than using ego entertainment to forget the person you are.
Also, let the difference between their behaviour and yours create a sense of compassion in you. I know it can be annoying when someone doesn’t change or grow as fast as we’d like them to, but remember: We’re slow to fix our own shit too. So when you watch The Bear characters struggle, try to feel the same compassion you’d hope others feel for you. Which is tough, it’s difficult watching people struggle—because growth isn't linear. They backslide. But the more patient and compassionate you can be with people who are trying, the more Love you will feel for them. You will root for them. And learning to root for people is a valuable practice that will benefit you.
I cried a bunch watching this show. It's so lovingly human.
Where to Watch
Recommended by:
Alexander De Jordy
Become Love Coach
Founder, The Become Love Company
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