THE PRACTICAL GUIDE TO
BECOMING LOVE
WHAT IS LOVE?
Let's be clear what Love is not.
Love is not the holiday trotted out every mid-February; that's consumerism. Love doesn’t care about shiny diamonds or fast sports cars; that's greed. Love is not the neurochemical high you feel during a relationship's honeymoon period; that's attachment. Love is not owning your partner; that's possession. Love is not even the desire to have sex; that's lust. Consumerism, greed, attachment, possession, lust are not Love; these are all ego desires in disguise.
Our ego confuses what the word "Love" means by calling its own selfish desires "love." This makes Love seem shallow, irrational, conditional. What we really mean when we say, "I Love..." is, "I feel at one with..." Love is Oneness.
What is Oneness? Words fail. It is a feeling. Do you know, or can you imagine, the feeling a really good parent has for their child? That feeling of caring, nurturing, supportive selflessness: that's Oneness, that's Love. You know the feeling you have for a crying puppy? That feeling that you would do anything to help: that's Oneness, that's Love. Oneness is feeling—truly feeling—that e v e r y o n e is your family regardless of how different or messed up they are: that's Love.
The feeling of Oneness, the feeling of Love, is joy.
We would feel joy all day were it not for our unconscious mentations and actions, our old code. The old code that makes us feel angry, envious, fearful; the old code that makes us act impatient, resentful, ungrateful, judgemental, selfish—that is what blocks us from feeling Oneness, feeling Love, feeling joyful.
As you start to practice Love every day you will learn to stop joy-blocking old code. You will create the new code that allows you to feel at one with other people.
You will feel the benefits of practicing Love immediately. Love is not a light switch, it’s not on or off; Love increases incrementally.
This is repetitive but it needs to be repeated: The only way to stop suffering and feel joyful is to tame your mind and BECOME LOVE. And the only way to BECOME LOVE is to override your old code sustained by your ego.