You must practice compassion every day in order to over-ride old code and BECOME LOVE. Practice the 3 QUALITIES of compassion: Infinite, Immediate, Unconditional; and the 2 MODES: Towards yourself, Towards others.

 

INFINITE COMPASSION

 

Infinite compassion is when your compassion never runs out.

 

TOWARDS YOURSELF: You are months into your Love practice. You have noticeably progressed, others see it, but you still struggle with losing your patience with others. You could become discouraged, judge yourself, and give up. Or you could give yourself the same advice you’d give someone else progressing towards Love: “Good work. Keep going.”

 

TOWARDS OTHERS: You have a friend who regularly self-sabotages their life. You help them get a good job. They start strong then one day rage-quit, making you look bad. How could they put you in this position? Because their old code is still strong. Practice infinite compassion by understanding their timeline to conquer their old code may be longer than your timeline. Reach out and see what you can do for your friend now.

 

IMMEDIATE COMPASSION

 

Immediate compassion is when you choose compassion over judgement in the moment, rather than in hindsight. There is no delay in expressing your compassion, it is immediate.

 

TOWARDS YOURSELF: You think you are over old code. Then one day an unexpected challenge brings out an old code resentment. You are able to recognize it, but you can’t immediately replace it with new code. You could beat yourself up for not being as far along as you wanted to be. Or, you could immediately choose compassion over judgement by laughing at yourself and saying, “Good thing I didn’t tell everyone I was perfect.” The light-heartedness of this attitude will help you let go of the resentment as well.

 

TOWARDS OTHERS: You are on the bus. The woman in front of you is constantly checking her appearance on her phone. You could let your old code judge her for being vain. Or, you could feel compassion for a person who feels so insecure about their appearance that they need to constantly check. When they get up to leave, pay them a compliment, or at least acknowledge their presence with a friendly smile.

 

UNCONDITIONAL COMPASSION

 

Unconditional compassion is not creating excuses for why you can’t be compassionate. Your compassion has no strings attached.

 

TOWARDS YOURSELF: You are wealthy but unhappy. You think because you are wealthy that nobody will care about your problems. Your old code judges you, “Keep these problems to yourself, you are too privileged to ask for help.” Instead, accept you are human like everyone else, and show yourself compassion by reaching out for help and support. This creates new code.

 

 

TOWARDS OTHERS: Two countries prepare for war. Your side says the other side hates you, they hate your way of life, they hate your culture. You could jump on the bandwagon and perpetuate this hate; this creates endless hate. Or, you could reach out to the other country’s ethnic community near you and start a dialogue. Say, “I don’t hate you, I Love you. How can we stop this fighting?” You may not avert the war, but you won’t be made into an unwilling soldier.

 

*Look for moments to practice compassion throughout your day. You can either seek out situations or people that you know will test your compassion, or prepare for your compassion to be spontaneously challenged.